I get too invested sometimes in others fertility struggles. Literally my heart sinks when it does work for them, or they miss trying for a month because they are traveling for work. This is why I know that I need to create an organization that offers awareness and support.
A fb friend posted this yesterday and floored me about the lack of awareness. I don't think she had any clue how insensitive her words were.
"Lol at all the people struggling with infertility and making it a personal affront to them."
Are you kidding me? I get that when you are pregnant it's not a walk in the park, and you are allowed to complain and gripe. But as you are sitting in the hospital with labor pains with your third child, I don't think you have any clue as to how so many desperately long to be in your shoes.
Infertility is a condition, just like any other that you can control. In my opinion, when you are on the heart of it, it feels worse than any other condition. Your identity of who you are to the core, your purpose for being on this earth are questioned. Your soul feels completely empty with fear that you can't be a mother. Unless you have gone through it, you have no idea of the pain. However, you can be aware of what it would feel like if your precious children (if you have children) never existed. I know that's harsh, but just imagining that fear puts you in the shoes of those dealing with infertility/loss.
As a note, I don't wish the pain of infertility on anyone. If you conceived naturally with no trouble you are so very lucky and I'm happy that you didn't have to go through the pain and fear that those of us with infertility fear. But please, be aware of our struggles.
Of course you can joke about the woes of pregnancy- but there's no need to be insensitive to those going through infertility- especially when you have no clue yourself as to what it feels like.